Relationship Tips for Women


  • Men are creatures who need RESPONSE & REACTION.  Your verbal or non verbal RESPONSES or REACTIONS affirms & validates him. If he does something for you and there is no RESPONSE/REACTION from you, you are communicating something. For example:  If he gives you flowers & there is no RESPONSE/REACTION you are non verbally communicating “Don’t Do That Again!” Listen, the behavior you always REWARD is the behavior he will always REPEAT.


  • FORGIVENESS clears you of having to worry about how to punish the person who hurt you. When you choose to FORGIVE someone you are not turning them loose, rather you are turning them over to God. FORGIVE & be free. Let it go! 


  • It is a proven fact that PERSISTENCE is the single most common quality for successful & high achieving relationships. The longer you hang in there & keep pressing forward day by day, the greater the chance that something will happen in your favor. No matter how hard it seems, the longer you PERSIST the more likely your success.  Luke 18:1 Pray and NEVER give up!  

  • Your husband needs a PLAYMATE. A PLAYMATE is a RECREATIONAL COMPANION.  While he needs male friends, YOU must become the one he can have the most fun with. Remember how you spent so much time with him when you were dating? It is very interesting that among the five basic male needs, spending recreational time with his wife is second only to sex.


  • Your man will always be motivated to love you in RESPONSE to you showing him RESPECT. His greatest need is not love (that’s yours) his is RESPECT. Whenever you fail to show him RESPECT he becomes an island all to himself & looses emotional energy to connect with you. Ephesians 5:33 The wife must RESPECT her husband… 1Peter 3:2…as they observe your RESPECTFUL behavior.   In my Aretha Franklin voice R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means (to him)…


  • When a mother Eagle builds a nest for her young she uses thorns, thistles, jagged stones, & other sharp objects as the nest’s infrastructure? Why? Because if she makes he nest “too comfortable” then her babies will never leave the nest & soar above the clouds. Ladies, that’s why things sometimes are so uncomfortable & miserable for you in your relationship! Could it be that our heavenly Father is trying to get you out of your “comfort zone” Could it be that He wants take you higher this year! In my R Kelley voice…I Believe I Can Fly!


  • Have you heard RIHANNA’s song Unfaithful? Boy did she hit the nail on the head with that one! Listen, Infidelity among a man or woman is not always about sex. I’ve counseled couples that it isn’t really about whom you lie with, it’s whom you lie to. To prevent UNFAITHFULNESS, always talk about what you specifically need from each other how you can meet those needs. If you don’t meet your partners needs somebody else just might.

  • Nikki Minaj tells Rick Ross in a popular song these powerful words: “You the boss…You, you, you the boss man…” BINGO! This is precisely what your man needs to hear! You see men want to be ADMIRED and feel RESPECTED! Never let another female praise your man more than you!

Relationship Tips for Men

  • Real males never embrace a victim mentality, instead they take responsibility for their actions, mistakes, failures & sins. If you want to lead the team you must prove you can handle the ball. Be Responsible! If an archer shoots an arrow & misses the target he looks within himself to find fault, not at the target. To improve your aim you must improve yourself…Be responsible & stop making excuses DAWG.


  • If you are in a relationship with another human being you will be hurt by them whether intentionally or unintentionally.  How should you respond ? Always use the “F” WORD. FORGIVE! That’s really why Jesus came into the world…to offer the “F” Word to sinners like you and me!  Ephesians 4:32 FORGIVE each other, just as…Christ FORGAVE you. 

  • Have you heard the chorus to Sunshine Anderson’s popular song? She says…Heard it all before…All of ya LIES, all of ya sweet talk Baby this, Baby that But your LIES ain’t working now look who’s hurting now See I had to shut you down (I had to shut you down). Played the fool before (played the fool before). Here’s my point: In order for your WOMAN to stay emotionally connected to you she needs you to always be HONEST! HONESTY is so crucial to her that without it whatever relational conflict you are having may never be resolved.

  • Do you feel like giving up? On your relationship? Here’s a word… PERSISTENCE.  Listen, If you can keep at it a little while longer, if you can find & rekindle one little spark of faith that it will all work out…it just might. Giving up is easy. Anyone can do that but If you can find the discipline to PERSIST, then you’ve got a power that many seem unable to master.

  • Proverbs 5:15-18  Be faithful to your own wife,  just as you drink water from your own faucet….don’t give your love to just any woman. These things…shouldn’t be shared with strangers. Be happy with the wife you married when you were young. She gives you joy, as your faucet gives you water. 

  • Boys play house…Men build homes… Boys shack up…Men get married… Boys make babies…Men raise children…A boy won’t raise his own children, a man will raise his & someone elses… Boys invent excuses for failure…Men produce strategies for success… Boys look for somebody to take care of them…Men look for someone to take care of…Boys seek popularity…Men demand respect & know how to give it..Boys do what they want, men do what they are suppose to & more….Lord help me to become a MAN!  

  • Rihanna sang: How about a round of applause…A standing ovation…Listen, if you are dishonest to your partner you are making withdrawalsfrom her Emotional Love Bank. Lack of truth, honesty & openness gives her many false impressions & illusions so that it makes it difficult for her to know what to believe. When you tell her the truth, you build up her emotional stability & empower her. 

  • In my Chris Brown voice…”Don’t you be holding back your love…Don’t you be holding back…”Have you heard that song?
    Listen, your wife/girlfriend more than anything needs to FEEL your love. It is very difficult for a female to respond to a male when she does not FEEL loved. Her FEELING your love is important to her as the AIR she breaths. Never withhold your love because she will suffocate.

  • You wife needs you to be completely transparent & totally honest with her. In order for her to feel SECURE in the relationship she needs ACURATE & TRUTHFUL information.  Undermining her trust will make her feel off balance & distant. As the late Marvin Gay taught us, she needs to know “What’s Going On!” “Heeeey What’s Going On?”